The title says it all, and so does the Bible. 1 Corinthians 7:9 says,
But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust (NLT).
This is why God gave us the right to marry. He knows that we are born with a sinful nature, so He graciously gave us a way to control our lustful desire for one person. To me, having a loving God that specifically created us to be in close relationships together, sounds way better than bae posting a cute pic of us on Instagram, #idonthaveabae.
Let’s take a look at what the Bible has to say about relationships, friendships, and the way the world sees this topic.
In today’s world, society has everyone convinced that it’s normal to be a part of the “hook up” culture, and everyone has a “random” one night stand, or that it’s common to have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend. But what people don’t realize is that our minds will make a connection, whether we like it or not, with that random. So, it’s actually impossible to have a one night stand and just move on from it. You may ask, how do people know that’s impossible? Well, it’s been scientifically proven through many studies, but it actually dates back as far as the beginning of time when God created one man and one woman to be together (Genesis 2:18-24).
Hebrews 13:4 says,
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery (NLT).
So, if God created you and I in His perfect image, that means He purposely formed our spirit to make such a strong connection when we have sex with someone. That is why He intended that connection to be made between a husband and a wife.
So what kind of feelings would come up if you’re having sex outside of marriage? From personal experience it caused a lot of unnecessary heartbreak and really low self-esteem. It can make you feel insecure, like people know what you have been doing. These are not the feelings we should have. That is why it is so important to not follow culture, and instead build a relationship the way God intended it to be.
What’s life without friends? Pretty boring in my opinion. How can I get the best table at lunch, share the nicest clothes, or go to the best parties if I don’t have the right friends? Not that these are all bad things, but friendship is meant to be a much deeper connection. Deep enough to where you would be willing to do anything for them because you love them. Did you know that the greatest examples of true friendships were shown in the Bible?
Jesus and his twelve disciples were the thirteen best friends that anybody could have, and most claimed that they would never leave each other. They traveled, prayed, fasted, preached, and experienced life together. It was a very strong Christian community that we should all strive to have with our friends. This is how we can create those deep bonds with each other. In John 15:13 Jesus says,
There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends (NLT).
I don’t know about you, but I think it’s an amazing feeling to know I have friends that all feel this way about each other.
We can see that the Bible and the world have a significant difference in their views on relationships and friendships, but where do your views line up? Do you believe that the Bible is true, and a good way to align our lives when it comes to this topic? Really think about it. Which side of the spectrum do you believe to be true? How can you be intentional to form deeper friendships with those closest to you?
-Ashley Strzelczyk, CedarCreek Student Ministries Intern